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I got attracted to a woman at work and I could try to pursue a friendship with her, but I am not even sure that she wants this. We have had some great conversations and I found that we are interested in the same things and share many of the same values and attitudes. Things became more intense with very prolonged eye contact.
There has been very little physical contact, we are both rather shy. A few times when we have touched she seemed to become quite flustered. This may sound like the beginning of a real relationship, but on the other hand, she has never expressed any interest in seeing me outside of work. I do believe from hints that she has dropped during our conversations that she has rather low self-esteem; she has trouble making eye contact and initiating a conversation except about work matters. Now how do I proceed with this woman?
There could be any number of reasons why she has decided not to escalate your friendship into a relationship. Considering that she has been married previously it could have been that it had affected her quite badly and that she has been reluctant to start / begin a new one. She might not have allowed her heart to have mended from her former marriage and is still hung up on her ex.
When she first noticed you and began to hang around your cubicle she inadvertently started a series of events that a person could mistake for as a sign of interest. Subconsciously she was going through the routines of befriending you, spending time with you and making a connection.
However even if the will was there to begin something the intention was not. In this regards all the effort that was put into the makings of creating a relationship actually fell short of actually becoming one.
I do not think that not accepting your offer was actually a reflection of how she felt about you, a rebuff on you as a person. If she is old school and she saw that you only had two sandwiches for example, she might have declined your offer because she did not want to deprive you of your lunch.
Bottom line: Should you decide to choose to be in her life you should orientate your mind towards caring about her as a fellow human being and not expecting anything in return. (i.e. for her to like you as a partner and therefore chasing you)
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