Men's Guide To Approaching Women: Path Of Least Resistance
What are the essentials of a lasting relationship?Which signs are pointing out that relationship is going to develop in a long term love and friendship?
Essentials of Long-Lasting Relationships
I believe that everyone has someone out there. Some find them easily, some do not. Not everyone can feel passion, however.
To some, a relationship is like a business; you do what you have to do to keep it going. These people play it safe and have no chance for feeling passion.
Opening yourself to a relationship
Opening yourself to a relationship so fully that you actually lose your mind is a dangerous, scary and exhilarating thing.
It can be wonderful.
But passion isn't enough.
There comes a time when that bright passion that carried you along fades a little.
Sometimes, it just vanishes.
Where are you then?
If all that your relationship consisted of was big passionate moments, you might start to feel differently.
It has been said that women can sense when a man lacks confidence and will reject him on that score. As a result, the man becomes even less confident, which leads to more rejection, which leads to even less confidence.
So given all this, is there any sure-fire way that a person can regain lost confidence or overcome shyness without the help of another person to see beyond the surface?
I've found shyness often comes from being worried about what others think of you.
I used to be quite shy. Then I realized one day. Why do I care what others think of me?
Believe it or not, since that day I have been a lot more outgoing. It’s a mental block that you have to get over, and for me just realizing what it was, was what got me over it.
How to gain confidence with women?
Any women you meet in a bar, or on a college campus, etc.. you will almost certainly never seen her again if you fail to pick her up.
So don't worry about messing up, and just go for it all.
There is one simple yet effective "technique" for getting rid of shyness. Just stop caring what others think of you.
Hey, it worked in my case!
You start in small steps. Make small talk. Can't get shot down for an approach when you're not approaching.
Just learn to relate with women as human beings who make conversation.
Learning the Effective communication
Small things turn into big things because people don't effectively communicate. Effective communication includes empathy, sympathy, honesty, compassion, understanding, compromise and unity.
Don't let fear cripple you ever.
Do not be afraid to say something. You will regret more wanting to have said something but never having said it than saying something that resulted in rejection.
Speak with your feelings and if the other person cannot appreciate that, move on.
Be charming, somewhat elusive and unpredictable at first.
Don't play games after the "playing games" portion of dating is concluded, though. People who play endless games don't make for very good partners.
How to start conversation in an appropriate way?
It's really very simple. You probably know something that the two of you already have in common, so go talk to her about that. That is assuming you two already know each other a little and aren't complete strangers.
If you are, then I would suggest a simple introduction at first.
Then you can follow that up with a few casual flirt smiles; and then go strike up that conversion with her. Simply put, the worst thing that can happen is she'll kind of just ignore you and you'll find that she wasn't worth dating in the first place.
On the other hand, the best that can happen...
Well, that's an entirely different subject...
and in a good way.
So in other words, you've got nothing to loose and everything to gain. So just go for it.
When talking to her, don't worry about making any kind of impression. Don't try to think of what you'll say before you say it. Just be you 100% and if that’s what she likes, then you'll get that date.
Staring a conversation from the ground
First,
1. Take the initiative.
For instance, don't wait for someone to start talking to you, introduce yourself.
People are usually relieved when you take the initiative. In those rare cases when they are not pleased, you know you did your best to be friendly, so the problem must be with them.
Either way, you avoid feeling shy because you are doing something, and focusing on something outside yourself.
2. Second, focus on the situation around you
You have to give up worrying about what impression you are making. You will create a much better impression by being engaged than by saying something clever. If you have to start talking on a new topic, talk about something about the immediate situation.
Try to make it positive.
If you speak in negative terms, people you do not know will tend to worry that you will be talking negatively about them next.
Some good ideas "how" to start:
- Ask for activities (such as dancing or roller coaster rides) where you'll have mandatory physical contact (in a natural way, without having to think about it first)
- Start with momentary incidental contact, like a touch on the shoulder or arm.
- start with easy things. That doesn't mean too much for you, so you'll communicate easier.
In a Second Chapter of " Men's Guide To Approaching Women - The Path Of Least Resistance" [ How to overcome shyness with women? ] you will learn:
- What are important steps to overcome shyness?
- When to ask girl out?
- When you finally ask girl out have a plan for the for the date?
I would suggest that you try to overcome your shyness as soon as possible and make your first move.
It WILL make you feel better either way. Maybe it would take a few days to cope with a rejection, but you’ll learn from failures and rejections too.
I personally advise against declaring your intentions to be either romantic or non-. I'd say just go for things that sound fun, and don't worry what it's called.
How to approach girl first time?
Being a deathly shy person, chances are that your approach is going to come off as very nervous and awkward, assuming you get the nerve to do this at all.
I think the gradual approach like:
- Meeting her in the hallway,
- Saying 'hi',
-Making some small talk, etc.
is easier to start, and you even get a better idea of what she is like, and how she feels about you.
Be careful that your shyness doesn't stop her from getting to know the real you once you do go out. After all, the other things only give her a glimpse of you.
Open communication is the KEY for any relationship. Watch your daily social activities, and you’ll find out that most of our time was spent in communication.
However most of us find the communication with the opposite sex quite difficult. It’s still the unexplored territory.
There is no easy way to do it.
A lot of men are not great conversationalists
And that skill is never learned in school, even not in a family. We used to communicate with our friends and coworkers, but when it comes to approaching the girl a lot of us get stuck.
What should I tell her, and still sound like a confident man?
If I approach her now, she may just walk away without saying a word.
What If she rejects me, I cant’s stand embarrassment in front of the crowd.
How can I know if she is single? She is so pretty that she must have a boyfriend.
I think it all comes down to one word:
" choice!"
I’m also sure you’ve been told the famous quote: “You’ll meet someone when you least expect it.” And believe me this is not a just a proverb, it happens everyday to regular folks just like you think you are.
Making casual friendships with a lot of girls leads you to your primary goal.
Feeling relaxed in he presence of a girl you are attracted to.
I can hear you asking:
“But where I can find women that would like to engage in casual friendship?”
“I don’t want to chat up girl first and then realize that she is already in a romantic relationship, married or not interested at all i men”
What makes you an interesting person to the opposite sex?
Stop worrying about what you’re going to say next when you finally started conversation.
Focus all your attention and energy on listening to what the woman is saying to you.
Try to visualize or “feel” what she’s saying.
This does take a little effort. It’s not very hard to do, but it’s not something that men “naturally” do. You simply have to concentrate.
Now when listening you want to pay particular attention to any “seeds” or free information she happens to throw your way.
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